<em>The Bachelorette</em> recap: Luke who's leaving (finally)

“I want to be physical with him.” You don’t say?Still, the Bachelorette feels “nervous and scared” that her connection with Tyler is more physical than emotional.Hannah’s mission at dinner, then, is to determine whether Tyler can truly be her “forever” person. “It is a huge part of our relationship… But, like, it has to be more.” To that end, continues Hannah, “I don’t want to go into the Fantasy Suite and have sex because I don’t feel like that’s what our relationship needs.” Bless his heart, Tyler tries his very hardest not to look as disappointed as he is by this news.“I just want to be with you,” he says. It’s a little choppy — “I can stand here today, like, and tell you, like, I do love you, like” — but we’ll allow it.Hannah, too, is pleased with everything Tyler’s had to say. “I had a really great night with Tyler,” says Hannah. “I just don’t fully understand how you can be as amazing as you are and even consider someone like him,” he says.“Like, how honest do you want me to be?” Hannah asks. And there is a connection, but I’m still trying to figure it out.” All she really has to go on, adds Hannah, is “a feeling.” Jed is clearly not satisfied with this answer, but he lets the matter drop… until dinner, at least.In fact, that night it’s the Bachelorette who brings Luke up first. “I know how you feel about me, and I see it as coming from a good place.” (If only.) With that said, Hannah is hoping that the “talking about Luke” portion of the date will be over. Because when a woman walks away from you and turns her back to you, it means “please get in my personal space,” right rose lovers?Once they’re back at the table, the Bachelorette makes this reasonable request: “I just want somebody at the end of the day that can trust decisions I’m making.” Sensing he’s pushed Hannah enough for one night, Jed backtracks, saying he trusts her decisions and knows she’ll make the right decision for her.Welp, that’s settled. (“I want it the way I want it,” he says.) Luke praises Hannah for being a “spiritual leader” in her household… and then says he’s “so ready” to “make history” in his family. Sex is “incredible” and “beautiful,” but “only when it’s in the guidelines of marriage.” As stated in the book of Hebrews, Luke continues, the marriage bed “should be kept pure.” Even though he and Hannah are not virgins, Luke is “confident” that they’re on the same page about “morals.” Now he just wants verbal confirmation from Hannah that she has not or will not defile her future marriage bed by getting down (pa-ta-bow-oooh!) with Jed, Tyler, or Peter. “I just want to make sure you’re not going to be sexually intimate with the other relationships here.”Though she says, “Okay,” it’s pretty clear Hannah cannot freaking believe what she is hearing. “If you told me you’re having sex, or you had sex with one or more of these guys,” he continues, “I’d be wanting to go home, 100 percent.”At this point, Hannah would be perfectly justified in throwing a glass of Ouzo in Luke’s face and walking away, but she struggles to keep her cool. Luke tries to cut her off and she just stops him with a firm, “No.” (I may have screamed “F–k yeah Hannah B!” at my screen in that moment.) “I get when you care for somebody that you don’t want to think about somebody being intimate with another person,” she continues, “but guess what? Unfortunately for him, he also tries to interrupt Hannah again, and the Bachelorette does NOT love it.“I’m a grown woman and can make my own decisions,” declares Hannah.Rose lovers, I honestly cannot believe what comes out of Luke’s mouth next. What’s truly appalling about this is Luke’s belief that in 2019, he is entitled to pass judgment on any adult woman — even a religious woman — who chooses to have sex.“The words that you’re saying are just, like, really not okay,” Hannah informs him. “Honestly, you have already broken my heart through this, like truly — and I’ve broken my own heart because I’ve allowed everything,” says Hannah.